June 2011
72 posts
OH MY JOSS YOU GUYS YOU GUYS THIS IS REAL
I MEAN IT
THIS ACTUALLY HAPPENED
HERES THE SITUATION
IM WATCHING BUFFY SEASON SIX WHEN GILES RETURNS AND HE AND BUFFY HUG AND THERES THE WHOLE “MIRACLE? YES. BUT THEN I ALWAYS THOUGHT SO” MOMENT (AKA A REALLY REALLY BOOTIFUL EMOTIONAL MOMENT IN THE BUFFYVERSE) SO IM CRYING ALL PROPPED UP ON MY ARM ON MY PILLOW AND MY HEAD IS TILTED AT AN ANGLE SO THAT IF A TEAR WERE TO ROLL DOWN MY FACE IT WOULD DROP ONTO THE PILLOW
SO IT HAPPENS
MY TEAR DROPS ONTO MY PILLOW
AND LOOK
AT
IT
WHAT THE HECK
WHAT
THE
HECK!?!?!??!!?
MY TEARS ARE MADE OF HEARTS AKA GILES/BUFFY LOVE!?!?!?!?!?
MY TEARS FOR JOSS…..ARE MADE OF……..LOVE!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
HEART TEARS. HEART. TEARS. FOR JOSS. FOR BUFFY.
NOTHING HAS VALIDATED MY LIFE CHOICES MORE AND NOTHING EVER WILL
THINGS THAT I LOVE ABOUT INTERNALLY BRUISING/SPRAINING MY FOOT MUSCLES AND POSSIBLY HAVING A MINOR FRACTURE:
-getting an x-ray! FUNNEST THING!
-getting to lay about my bed reading comicbooks and watching shows all day longz!
-crawling around my house like some kinda Samara! i have the hair for it too!!!
-practicing the art of right-foot-hopping!
-sliding down the stairs on my butt without getting yelled at (too much) because walking is not an option and buttstairsgoingdowning is the best!!!
-pretending im a zombie when i walk with a limp!!!
-pretending im a Slayer who just got injured in battle!! JK I AM A SLAYER
-limping toward my Ma when she asks me to do something and then pretend-collapsing onto the floor!
-making my bff-beta slave after me/bring me food/bring me water/do everything for me!!!
ILL CONTINUE THE LIST AS I FIND MORE THINGS TO LUV
The point was to show that all body types are beautiful and nobody should feel like someone out there can't love them for it.
right, but thats the thing i had a problem with. the picture/commentary below is still encouraging people to seek external confirmation and be happy with their bodies because of how others will see them. yes, everybody should feel as though they are lovable and desirable, the picture shows a thin stomach as undesirable for one person and then shows a fat stomach as desirable. this is just the same as showing a fat body as undesirable and a thin body as desirable. you cant try to increase the confidence of one “group of people” (even though fat people aren’t exactly a GROUP) by hurting another, and you certainly shouldnt base the entire “be happy with who you are” thing off other people’s perspecives of you!
About the Portraying/Policing Men's Desires thing...I think you may have slightly missed the point.
how so?
Portraying and Policing Men's Desires →
thesocietypages.org
Many Westerners are constantly reminded that (very) thin women are sexy to men and (even slightly) chubby women are not. In fact, men’s desires vary quite tremendously and often include a much wider range of body types than the media would have us believe. This is often kept secret not just by media executives, but by men themselves who might feel “weird” if they don’t prefer the culturally ideal type.
(BTW, I think that the picture here is from Postsecret.)
while that is true, this photo is still encouraging people to consider things from another person’s perspective (i dont want to limit it to men because there are obviously couplings apart from a man and a woman). the whole point is to stop catering to other people’s desires and expectations and be who you are and live the way you want to live and eat what you want to eat or whatever. this photo is saying, “hey, other people like fat girls too, so dont worry!” which is very true, and is important to convey for sure, but i think it slightly puts down thin women in order to speak to fat women, and still pushes us to consider what other people like and dont like, which shouldnt be a factor. idk. what do u guys think?
sometimes i like to take a few
hairs on one side of my hair parting thingie and put it on the other side and then pretend the other side of my hair is the Dark Side (even though all the hairs on my head are the dark side b/c my hair is black) and that the Dark Side seduced those hairs over to its side and the side it was previously on was like BETRAYAAAAAAAAAAAL and then to battle them i whip my hair back n forth
actually i just started doing that today
but im gonna do it a lot more frequently now b/c its fun
but only for a lil while because then ur head gets dizzy and achy
Hi, I love your posts on fat acceptance! So nice to see that sort of thing around the internet, it doesn't happen often. Anyway, I'm writing this to just point something out to you: in one of your recent responses, you mentioned how the "real women have curves" thing is bullshit (which it is, I definitely agree with you) but then added "women are women because they have vaginas." Since you seem to be really into acceptance and the like, I just wanted to say that that statement can be pretty hurtful to trans women and could be seen as cissexist. Not all women have vaginas and not all people who have vaginas are women. Women are women because they identify as such. Other than that, your responses were spot on.
Have a great day!
oh man i am so incredibly sorry!!! im facepalming for overlooking such an important fact! you’re completely right, and i really hope i didn’t spur any ignorance with my statement. clearly i didn’t think it through enough. i feel absolutely awful! i certainly meant no harm, but obviously what i said is very offensive. ill remove it immediately. thank you so much for graciously letting me know, and again, i truly apologize. and to anybody else who read that statement and was hurt and offended by it, i apologize to you! i should have considered that right away and it won’t happen again!
and thats very kind Anon, i hope you have a wonderful day too!!!
i get such few text messages that
today when i heard my cell phone vibrate i thought it was my kitten purring
i don’t have a kitten
Okay, I'd just like to thank you for taking the time to read and respond and not feel the need to throw insults.
It's a good topic of debate and you did make a good case for yourself, but in the end we all believe what we see to be true, that's what makes the world so interesting and diverse.
Again, thank you for the time and the input!
cool it was interesting to interwebs-meet you and talk!
heres a nice lil quote by Amber Riley
“I was very skinny when I was little, and I got made fun of for being really skinny, so then I started to eat. Then I got fat. Then I got made fun of for being fat. If they don’t like me when I’m skinny and they don’t like me when I’m fat, I may as well find where I’m comfortable.”
i think this sums things up pretty nicely, separate from all the health talk we did
and on a health note, heres a great article that i really think you should read
http://www.cosmopolitan.com.au/arent_you_worried_about_your_health.htm
hope all is well on your end! take care
You make it seem like I go onto people's blogs and call them fat. I don't do that, I've never done that, and I never will. Also, I didn't reblog the picture FOR the picture. I wrote a comment underneath in response to it, so my reblogging it for what some perceived as comical reasons just was not the case. Anyways, I think we've both said what we needed to say. I don't think tagging my responses as "fat phobia" was necessary since a phobia suggests I'm somehow afraid of obese people. My sisters husband was obese for most of his life and I love that guy to death, however he DID have medical problems due to being close to 400 pounds and he DID get medical help. So, what I've been saying about being healthy and taking care of yourself IS true, I'm not just making this stuff up. I'm not afraid of obese people, I just think it's foolish to promote being extremely overweight. But continue with the naive thought that anyone who has their own opinion MUST be hating for no reason at all and MUST be assholes for writing on their blogs THEIR opinions. Of course you're allowed to think what you think, that's your right as a human being, I just thought I'd clear up what I was saying in my original post, but that seemed to have done little good and somehow made me into a bitch for being honest. Such is the world, we're all so afraid of stepping on toes and offending people that we keep our mouths shut. Kind of like what the government hides from the public because we might get "scared." However, the truth is the truth whether people bother to see it or not. So in closing, YES everyone is beautiful, YES there are those who thyroid problems and can't help their weight, but there are also those who overindulge and run the risk of dying young (again, from personal experience, I work at McDonalds and take orders where people order 8 double cheeseburgers and a super size coke).
hey girl,
the reason i tagged my posts “fat phobia” was because our conversations were completely relevant to that area of study. fat phobia is not the fear of fatness in the traditional “ahhhh monsters!!!” sense of the word fear. its a relatively new term referring to the disdain towards and rejection of fat body types. fat phobia is ONE factor that often contributes to why girls adopt eating disorders such as bulimia or anorexia. my tags weren’t some curtained attempt to call you fat phobic, they were just a good way to get my words read in the fat acceptance community.
since i don’t see you bringing up any points i haven’t already spoken about, i don’t know what more to write. i’ll just say that nobody is afraid of stepping on fat people’s toes. people have been insulting, degrading, and calling fatness an “epidemic” for years and years and years.
there are those who “overindulge”, but as ive said several times before, this is not limited to fat people, and not necessarily true of fat people. you are an example of this! that is NOT to say you’re gluttonous, its to use your example that no matter how much you may eat, you remain at the same ninety pound weight. and ill say this for the last time—promise. EXCERCISE in moderation and HEALTHY EATING is what should be promoted, not the ‘ideal body type’. so yea. and idk what you mean by being a bitch. its just a discussion and you were being civil so dont worry about it dawg!
Your BMI appears to be in the "underweight" category which also has a less healthy than acceptable weight prognosis. You've been allowed a false sense of security yourself, how do you feel about coming under the same level of attack as fat people, if you feel that is necessary?
hi!
i’ve been responding to this a lot! nobody should be attacked and nobody should be judged based on their weight or BMI. why would i ever support people being bashed based on their body type?! that is not what fat acceptance or body acceptance is about. it goes right across the body spectrum! fat people should not be crucified for being fat, and thin people should not be crucified for being thin. people should simply be respected.
that’s why, as ive mentioned before, this whole “real women have curves” thing is total bullshit. a woman is a woman when that is what she identifies as (and thank you to the gracious Anon who corrected me on this point!!!) the point of fat/body acceptance is to get rid of these ridiculous standards.
if my BMI numbers showed me to be underweight, i would consult my doctor and ask whether or not i was facing any health risks, and if some sort of action was necessary. there are so many factors involved. age, bone structure, height, and genetics are a few of them—and to overlook them and simply take the BMI numbers at face value would be doing myself a disservice.
body health is an extremely personal thing. it’s completely ignorant for others to make assumptions about you, your personality, your background, your eating habits, your excercise schedule, etc. based on your body type! whether someone is mocking a thin girl, claiming she has an eating disorder, or a fat girl, saying she’s lazy and gluttonous, it’s all hateful and disgusting and unsupportable! healthy diets and moderate excercise are what should be promoted, not ideal body types and what the “end goal” should be, although this will probably never change. unfortunately the diet industry can’t be dismantled overnight. what we can change is our perspectives and try being more accepting as the consumers and the people being advertised to.
thanks for asking!
I would just like to thank you for intelligently countering some of the nonsense that is the fat shaming culture. Sucks that Tumblr's supposed to be a safe place but it's just as bad as everywhere else.
id like to thank YOU for thanking ME! thats very kind of you. im trying.
however, Tumblr is after all a public forum so extreme points of view are to be expected! but you have to try to see Tumblr as it should be to show it what it CAN BE. lolwat? Angel didn’t say that in Angel: the Series i do not know what this plagiarism nonsense you are waving in my face is
